I've struggled with this my whole life and continue to do so...I subconsciously sabotage every close relationship for fear of not being able to provide what that person deserves. I never thought it was fair to put them through the struggles of having a future with me. So without even realizing what I'm doing, I always begin pushing the person away and sabotaging any future with that person.

I did try to get past my insecurities enough at one point and tried my hand at marriage. That almost lasted a year before I blew that up! It's always my insecurities, and the more I care and love people, the more I push them away because I know they deserve the chance at a life I cannot provide. People always say that it's not for me to decide, but in my heart, I know that is true.

Let her decide if you can fulfil her wishes or not. Don’t be mean to her by presuming things.